The inner-outer Game of Travelling Alone
Are you thrilled and at the same time scared about the idea of travelling alone? No worries, you are not the only one. The activity of going alone or doing things alone does not naturally fit in our ingrained habits.
For many reasons and here are the basic ones:
- Human beings are not wired to being alone, we are social creatures, and as such we tend to aggregate and be part of a community.
- To travel alone, you not only need to be highly motivated. You also need to be well organised and develop a high degree of trust and self-esteem.
- Trust in yourself and others is the no. 1 skill. If this is not one of your natural talents, you will need to work on it to be able to enjoy solo travel.
Why Solo Travel is Important and You Should Take It
By travelling alone, you will learn how to organise and plan things to work well. It means relying entirely on yourself and open your mind and heart to relating to others. It will teach you how to master inner and outer situations, how to listen, interpreter and manage your emotions and your feelings. These are the solid foundations of any solo venture.
It is crucial to understand the importance of aligning your inner self-motivation with the outer world. By finding out the real purpose of your solo travel ventures, it will help identify what you want and how you want to experience it. More importantly, it will help you create the best itinerary that matches your personality, your skills, your desires and your expectations.
Is it weird to travel alone? Finally, are you asking yourself: isn’t strange to go alone? Oh, I can tell a lot about this feeling. I had often heard that I am a weird woman. When I started touring alone in the late 80is, I was a young woman, and there was hardly someone travelling on their own, so it was an unusual way to visit places. Thirty years later, things have changed for the better. Nowadays so many women travel alone, and you are regarded as a brave woman. But don’t forget one crucial thing: going alone must be fun, and you must not see a means to prove something to yourself. You finally don’t need that, don’t you?
Before making a solo itinerary, take a look at the following steps that will help you get a picture of what motivates you for going solo. Here are my tips to master this inner-outer game and why you should travel alone.
What’re your Reasons to Travel Alone?
What motivates you to go solo. Make a list of all the reasons why you want to travel alone. What’s the purpose? Write down everything that comes to mind, be honest to yourself and say it aloud. Ask yourself if you are you prepared to hang around on your own, visiting places, going from destination to destination solo, do things completely alone, travel long distances on your own, etc.
Find the inspiration you need from stories of other women: this is very powerful especially if you are travelling alone for the first time.
Personal stories empower other people who want to build confidence and look for a boost in their motivation. It could be a book about solo travel, a personal story from a friend, a travel blog or a travel forum, find the ones that most inspire you and network with them. Exchanging ideas with like-minded people often trigger your hidden motivation too. It will reinforce your vision, and at the same time, it will help you identify what you want, thus eliminating fears.
Why do you want to go solo in the first place?
As a female solo traveller, you want to have a great experience, feel secure, see as much as you can, have the freedom to get around places on your own, feel good and stick to your planned itinerary. That’s what finally makes your trip into a great experience.
To do so, you need to achieve a balance of your inner and outer world. To master this inner-outer game, you need to grow your knowledge about the country and at the same time match this knowledge to your inner world.
How to create your First Solo Travel Experience
Travelling alone implies the ability to craft the path that is a perfect fit for your personality. If you choose to go alone, you will be dealing in sol in any circumstances, so it is vital for you to stick to an itinerary that matches your level of expertise and your level of confidence regarding physical and mental resilience. If you do not want to be disappointed, feel overwhelmed, get stuck and change your plan, you must know what you can do, what you cannot do and how you can do it. To do so try this:
Assess your skills
Craft your itinerary to match your personality and expectations.
Find out what the best suitable solution for you. How will you travel around? Start making a list of preferred ways of getting around. Make a list of what you are not prepared to consider. What type of travel do you feel more attracted to, what kind of accommodation can you think: do you like the idea of sharing rooms or do you love your privacy. Make a detailed list of places you want to see and research on the possible ways of transportation involved with timing and things to do there. On a separate paper list your preferred means of getting around alone with alternative routes as well as the percentage of time you are prepared to invest in those activities. Evaluate the pros and cons of going alone vs joining a group tour for each trip segments.
Visualise your Trip
Visualisation is a powerful tool to help you get familiar with your destination.
Go through every single step of your trip according to the plan you have in mind. This will be something like watching a virtual film of your trip before it happens and will help you build confidence to give a shape to your trip. From the departure day to the last day of your journey try to “experience it” in your mind in your eyes and your heart. By doing so, see how you feel, write down all your positive and negative feelings. This list will help you understand which part of your travel plan needs to be adjusted and where instead is a perfect fit.
Extend your comfort zone
Be prepared to take on a bit of adventure.
You are travelling alone means extending your comfort zone. This process naturally happens whenever you get out of your comfort zone by doing something that you do not like or feel uncomfortable about. It does not necessarily mean you have to make weird things or be over-adventurous. You know what you can do and what you cannot do, and you know how far you can go, dare, have fun and gain that precious feeling to say: finally I did that! Yay.
What’s the best place for great Solo Travel Adventures?
Australia is a country that offers excellent opportunities to all types of solo travellers from newbies who are willing to try out a first solo experience to expert travellers who are seeking to bring their adventures to the next level.
I love Australia and have been travelling on my own for the past 15 years.
These tips are the first steps to help you find your way and hopefully can be a sort of ignition for your solo travels in Australia.
If you’d like to travel with a backpack, you can read about my first-hand tips for backpacking in Australia.